Lately, I’ve been asked a series of questions in relation to my “ambition, drive, and purpose” in life. Reflecting upon the dialog with these individuals and with many of my friends, students, and mentors it would appear that a lot of people are struggling to ignite their own ambition, drive, and/or identify their purpose in life. These intangibles appear to be for most, a daunting task. Even worst, many simply don’t know where to begin.
The purpose of this blog is to share my inner most thoughts and reasons as to “WHY” I function the way I do, “WHY” I think the way I think, and “WHY” I view the world the way I see it. However, I must forewarn you. This blog is going to be very direct, forward, transparent to some degree, and provoke you to transparently evaluate yourself in this process of restoring your ambition.
Now, what happened? What derailed you? What knocked you off track(s)? What event disrupted your life? Who hurt you? Who robbed your joy? Who stole your happiness? Who broke your spirit? Stop reading this blog right now and go to that moment in your life. Look at it! Reflect on it! Think about it! How does it make you feel? How long ago did it happen? TODAY, how are you dealing with the pain that inflicted itself upon you?
I have to start here with this blog. We have to start with your “WHAT” in order to get to your “WHY” are you a scorned dreamer! I want to help you restore your ambition. With that said, NO MATTER what your answers are to the questions I asked in the previous paragraph it has become your EVERLASTING PERFECT EXCUSE for WHY you are NOT reaching your GOD GIVEN potential. That moment has defined, derailed, and deprogramed you to fail because you are letting that unfortunate moment in your life win. I don’t care what happen!! The world doesn’t care!! And you know what, I can hear you right now “But Bobby, you don’t understand……….”
The reality is, it’s not for me to understand or co-sign on the misery and pain that this event has caused you. GET OVER IT! Again, I don’t care and nor does the world. If you have to, APOLOGIZE TO YOURSELF for the person that inflicted the grief and pain upon you. FORGET CLOSURE!!! I don’t believe in closure. I forgive myself and YOU for hurting me TODAY!! I set myself FREE of that moment, FREE of the pain, FREE of the thought that haunts and hinders my progression!! I will ALWAYS remember what I need to learn from that unfortunate moment, but it won’t define ME and I FORGIVE YOU, I LOVE YOU and even more I LOVE MYSELF! I ask you……………Why are you waiting and wasting YEARS of your precious life waiting for the person that hurt you to give a 10 second apology? For closure?!?!? LET IT GO! The first step to restoring your ambition is to give yourself a clean slate! An airplane can’t soar with too much baggage!! So, why are you holding on to all of yours?The second step to restoring your ambition. UNCONDITION YOURSELF!!! My sister and I were sheltered by two(2) great parents. Notice, I didn’t say perfect. My sister and I would have extensive dialog at family gatherings about how our parents raised us in Candy Land. A make-believe world! My mom and dad protected my sister and I from the harsh ailments of this world. I grew up in Mobile, Alabama. This is as south as you can get in a Bible Belt State! My mom and dad did everything right to safeguard us from the realities of the world during our formative years. My uneducated mom, with an inexcusable driven demeanor, custom built our minds and developed us into methodical thinkers. My father, a highly ranked military man, had a radiant personality. He had a gift of befriending any and everybody no matter your culture, race, sexuality, etc.. Yet, he was very hard on me. His approach was that of no applause when it came to me. The first time my father said “I LOVE YOU SON!” I was 21 years old. But don’t get me wrong, my father loved me with all of his heart. I understand that, this was his approach for making me strive to reach my infinite potential as I eagerly sought out his concealed approval.
UNCONDITION YOURSELF!! Today, I realize how lucky I was for my middle class upbringing. I believe I was intentionally built, designed, and nurtured to be who I am today. My demeanor, the way I think, my ambition, my drive, is all because I AM UNCONDITIONED. Nobody defines Bobby Bryant, but Bobby Bryant. I NEVER was given the lesson of being inferior. It was pounded into me each-and-everyday that I was handsome, I’m smart, and I can accomplish ANYTHING!! I was CONDITIONED to believe in the possibilities of my potential and to view the world as my playground.
What are you CONDITONED to believe? What have you been told over and over and over again about YOU? Are you conditioned to believe some of these things: You can’t do that because you are black! You can’t do that because you are a woman! You can’t do that because you are Hispanic? You can’t do that because you had kids too young! You can’t do that because you don’t’ have a degree! You can’t do that because you are a single mother! You can’t do that because you are married now! You can’t do that because you are fat! You can’t do that because you are ugly! You can’t do that because you are gay! YOU CAN’T DO THAT……. The next thing you know, you start believing what you are being told. The good news is, you are reading this blog and you are about to change your life TODAY!! UNCONDITON YOURSELF!! Start talking and telling yourself positive things and thoughts. Start being around people you like, that like you, and that will support you. UNCONDITON YOURSELF!! Start reading more self-help books. Start healing your mentality TODAY!!! Start firing everybody, including your family members, that are NEGATIVE and NO GOOD for your psyche. UNCONDITON YOURSELF!!
The third step to restoring your ambition. BELIEVE WHAT YOU BELIEVE AND RIDE OR DIE WITH IT! This step conceives your PASSION! What do you unequivocally believe about YOU? What do you unequivocally believe about YOUR world? What do you unequivocally believe you are good at? What do you do everyday at work for someone else that you could start as a small business yourself? Don’t tell me how you FEEL!! Tell me what you BELIEVE!!
I’m the Owner/Founder of iBuy Realty. I, without a doubt, BELIEVE that my company will become a nationwide franchise. I, without a doubt, BELIEVE that my company is an untapped niche for savvy buyers and sellers that want to save money when it comes to their real estate transaction. I, without a doubt, built my belief by doing my research! My journey is calculated! And, I believe what I believe and am willing to DIE for it!!! I breathe, eat, and sleep my vision. I study it everyday. I read about everyday. I talk about it everyday. I write about it everyday. I AM MY VISION!! If you don’t believe what you are selling and telling, how are you going to get people to buy into you and your idea? BELIEVE WHAT YOU BELIEVE, research it, protect it, and sell it to the world!!
The fourth step to restoring your ambition. This isn’t going to be a
popular topic for some of you. However, I forewarned you that this blog was going to be direct and forward. Here is goes, DON’T BE TOO RELIGIOUS! I’m a very spiritual man. I believe in our GOD! As a kid, I went to church so much, I should be exempt for the rest of my life. But, DON’T BE TOO RELIGIOUS!! Everything in your life needs to be in moderation, including RELIGION. What exactly do I mean? I’m glad you asked! I’ve seen people so saturated into their RELIGION that they lose a sense of self and become passive with their worldly objectives. I try to understand, are they this involved out of guilt? Are they this involved because of tradition?
Based on what I witnessed in the black community, from which I was raised, we tend to exploit RELIGION and NOT take personal responsibility. In addition, I've seen RELIGION used more to manipulate the behaviors of people instead of being the spiritual LIFE guide it was designed to be. As a matter fact, I've heard over and over that we should give your problems to GOD! Take your hands off the steering wheel of LIFE because HE is in control. Yes, HE is in control!! However, HE will only help YOU if you are willing to put your hands on the steering wheel and meet him half way. HE gave us this thing called FREE WILL!! You see, that becomes a very serious variable. With that said, you can’t totally and 100% of the time PRAY your way out of situations or always give it to GOD! You have to do your part and take responsibility for your actions. You can’t keep doing devilish stuff and asking GOD every week to forgive you as you constantly repeat your ungodly behaviors. I’m sure you heard the statement “FAITH WITHOUT WORKS IS DEAD!” Secondly, I sure you heard the statement “GIVE A MAN A FISH, YOU FEED HIM FOR A DAY. TEACH A MAN HOW TO FISH, YOU FEED HIM FOR A LIFE TIME!” Yet, at times I believe that RELIGION becomes a crutch and delays progress. GOD has already blessed YOU. However, you have got to shake off all your drama and start walking into what HE has planned for you. GOD put you through what you consider HELL for a reason. You ask, WHY YOU? I say, “WHY NOT YOU!” When you lift your head up, stop playing victim, dust off your pants, and follow HIS direction the clouds over your life will disappear. But, YOU HAVE TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY!!!
Lastly, my fifth step to restoring your ambition. Find a Mentor! Who do you know that is doing what you want to do? Study them! And, figure out how to contribute to them for mentoring you. Once you identify your passion you have to find someone that can direct you to your goal. I can’t tell you how many people consult a flunky. If you want to make an “A+” in school, who do you study with? Another “A+” student or the Trouble Maker that’s failing the class? EXACTLY!!! Find a Mentor that is proven and become his/her understudy. But, you have to add value to someone that is willing to pour his/her knowledge into you for FREE. Most people don’t understand this dynamic and this is the reason why most people that could be a great resource declines one of being their mentee. In addition to that, these Mentors are seasoned and deal with a lot of people!! They deal with a multitude of different personalities on a daily basis. You have to go through these steps of regaining your AMBITION before approaching a Mentor. They can see through YOU!! They will know YOU are NOT ready for the time you are asking them to spend on YOU for FREE!! Get yourself together, and then find a good Mentor……
I’m hopeful this blog helped you. If it did, please comment and share your thoughts. If it didn’t, also please share your thoughts. Either way, I will leave you with this final word: Life at best is a complicated journey! Each of us, was conceived on purpose. Each day, we all have the same time and to some degree as human beings want the same thing for ourselves and our families. However, LIFE is not fair. Some of us have advantages and some of us have disadvantages. But, there are people that look like each of us and have similar stories that have persevered in spite of the horrific things that have happened to them. Oprah was molested/raped by a family member!! LOOK AT HER SUCCESS…. Abraham Lincoln’s story is one against all odds!! Yet, he is one of the most respected and memorable Presidents in history. LOOK AT HIS SUCCESS…. Martin Luther King knew he was going to be killed!!! But, he believed anyway as he left a wife and kids behind. LOOK AT HIS LEGACY, LOOK AT HIS SUCCESS….
In order to restore our ambition, we have to give ourselves a clean slate. Forgive those that have hurt us. Forgive them TODAY! Forgive ourselves! Remove the people in our lives that are dream killers and that are more of a mental and physical drag on your progress. Start pouring positive information and thoughts into yourself. Learn yourself. Find out what makes you tick. Exploit your own talents. Be BOLD enough to not worry about what people think and say!! It doesn’t matter if you are on top of the world or on your back, people are going to talk about you anyway. Might as well BE ON TOP OF THE WORLD….. The sweetest revenge is to be successful!! You have my permission, to be your authentic successful self……
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